The Way to Happiness: Being Positive

I absolutely know the way to happiness is being positive. How could I not know when many times in my life I was the opposite of being positive? Oh yes, I wore the cloak of negativity with utter disregard for fashion sense. Little did I know that this clothing made me feel heavy, ugly and hateful.

Say something that would trigger my red button, I would scowl fiercely. Expert at scowling and frowning, I had mastered the art of showing my displeasure. But inside I was timid and fearful and would cry a lot when no one was around.

The way to happiness is being positive. But how in the world can one be positive when you feel so negative? How can one be positive when you just want to scream your rage or sometimes want to curl up and die with despair?

CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY. The way to happiness is being positive. It starts with your desire to be happy. The first step is you have to make that choice…to be happy or not be happy. I tell you I cannot make any person happy if they do not want to be happy.

Have you ever had one of those moments?

You are in a foul mood. Your spouse asks you, “What’s wrong?” You grunt in response. “Did I say something wrong or did something again that displeased you?’ He asks knowing you so well.

“You haven’t paid me any attention the whole time I am here.” You speak up finally.

“Oh I’m so sorry,” He laughs trying to be cheerful. “You didn’t smile when I said hello so I thought you wanted to be alone. All you had to do was ask. You want to talk?” He pulls your hand to the sofa. “Tell me how your day was.”

You roll your eyes and say, “I don’t like to talk. Can you just leave me alone?” You walk off leaving a surprised spouse scratching his head wondering what the heck happened to you.

Now if you are like me, I’ve had those moments. I want to be comforted and I wanted someone to listen but when they gave me their attention I pushed them away. I could not understand but I realized later that I was feeling restless inside. I was unhappy. I didn’t know what I wanted.

The moment I decided I chose to be happy, I no longer resist the love given to me. And then it became easier to walk the path to happiness and be positive.

DECIDE TO BE HAPPY. Observe kids. They can easily get out of their unhappiness quite easily.
I remember my five year old nephew who accidentally hit the glass of water on the table wetting his dad’s cellphone. He tried to talk to his dad trying to distract him; but since his dad didn’t say a word, he felt so guilty that he ran to hide behind the sofa. Half an hour later, his mom had convinced him to go upstairs to the bedroom but came knocking on my door an hour after. My sis-in-law pleaded, “Can you help me explain that this is not a bad house? He keeps on saying this is a bad house!”

Alone in the room, I asked him what happened and what he felt. “I can’t control my hands!” He muttered looking at his hands teary eyed. My eyes watered a bit and I had to control myself from bawling when I understood what he was feeling completely. “Are you worried that Dad is mad at you? Did you spill the glass on purpose?” I asked one question after the other. He answered me honestly.

“Well, you didn’t do it on purpose so we just have to be careful next time right?” And then I threw in the question. “I know you are not feeling good right now, what would you like to do to feel good?”

He stopped pacing around the room and his eyes twinkled. “I’d like to play with my water gun but it’s in my grandma’s house. Ah I know, can we play with my sharks and dolphins?”

I said “okay.” He beamed with delight, his bad mood gone as he ran to his room to get his toys.

  
RESOLVE TO BE HAPPY. Today, wherever you are right now, whatever challenges are staring at you in the face, resolve to be happy. You can prefer to be happy. You want to be happy. You desire to be happy. You opt to be happy.

By choosing, deciding, preferring, desiring, resolving to be happy, your attitude changes! You can actually start to be positive! By doing this you have just walked your way to happiness!

Michelle Simtoco

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To Find Happiness You Have to Be Open

Another secret to be happy or to find happiness is to be open. Open to possibilities, open to opportunities, open to people, open to events, open to see and hear new perspectives, open to love and open to happiness.

When Daisy (my Loving Abundance partner and friend) announced let's have a video shoot, I looked at her, frowned and frowned some more (if that were possible.) I double frowned because she wanted to do everything without planning.

"No planning?" I said aghast. "I don't want to look like an idiot", I declared, hands on hips.

She laughed insisting, "But this is an exercise. We can't plan it. The more natural you are, the more real it is. And that's the whole point."

I huffed and puffed and tried to make a lot of excuses. This girl was not taking no for an answer. So I grudgingly agreed.

Well, it turned out pretty well. Read my sharing and watch the video that we made by clicking this link: Openness in Manifesting Abundance with Endless Possibilities

I confess that when the ground I am walking on is something that scares me, I tend to withdraw and run away. I confess that being open is frightening at times because it makes me feel vulnerable and somehow naked. You don't want to be naked with people! What if they would hate you or laugh at you.

One lesson I've learned though is that the people who really love you do not laugh at you but laugh with you. They accept you and allow you to make mistakes. They support and challenge you to become a better person.

And so you learn to relax a little and open up a bit. And you allow goodness in. And then you open some more and more good comes in. And you open up more and more and more good things comes your way.

It just keeps on going.

But it all started with being open you know.

Be open and allow happiness in.

Be open to accept a smile, a word of kindness, a helping hand.

Be open to allow people to help you.

Be open to accept compliments.

Be open to accept love expressed in various ways.

Another secret to be happy and to find happiness is to be open. And then the possibilities are endless.

Michelle Simtoco

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To Find Happiness Sometimes You Have to Let Your Hair Down

To find happiness sometimes you just have to let your hair down. My nephew comes in with a worried look. And I ask him why. He says he doesn't want to enter the competition. What competition? The Math competition. I poked and asked until he finally said that he didn't like to lose.

Aaah, there! It's just a game. Just have fun. I said. But when the words left my mouth, it suddenly dawned on me that sometimes it's hard to have fun when the pressure is on. The expectations, the feelings that come out when you don't win, it really bugs us down. We want to play and have fun but we find ourselves trapped amidst our judgments and criticisms.


So here I am pondering why I said yes to the Hubchallenge. The challenge is to write 30 hubs or articles for the next 30 days. Can I really do that? I have a daytime job and so I only have nights to write and research. You see, I've been part of Hubpages for two years now. And Ryan Hupfer, HubPages Communicator of Awesomeness, has recently said YES to a Hub Challenge Vs. Courtney Tuttle of Keyword Academy. 100 hubs in 30 Days! Or if you find that toxic you can take the other challenge 30 Hubs in 30 days! 

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To Be Happy Be Willing to See Another View

To be happy one must be willing to see another view...another perspective.

I've often wondered why sometimes it becomes challenging to see another view and we tend to get stuck up seeing one side to the whole story.

Proverbs teaches us a lot of things. Does it inspire you or depresses you?

1. Cleanliness is next to godliness.
2. Honesty is the best policy.
3. Curiosity killed the cat.
4. Birds of the same feathers flock together.
5. Money is the root of all evil.
6. It is better to give than to receive.
7. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
8. Opportunity knocks only once.
9. Love is blind.
10. All good things must come to an end.



What are the beliefs and perspectives do you have recalling the above proverbs?

Daisy Ba-ad shares how her perception of this beliefs have been redefined through the years as her wisdom and understanding grew.

Read her hub: 10 Popular Proverbs Redefined and be inspired.

Michelle Simtoco

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